Well I’m back, I can’t seem to make time to post on a more regular basis. Today is my birthday, I am… twenty seven. YUCK. Birthdays are more of a bummer after a while. But as the year is coming to an end, as well as my twenties. I have a lot on my heart. I have grown so much in the last ten years. I know tons of people write open letters to every twenty something year old, but I have my own take on things and maybe my experiences can help someone else who may be struggling internally themselves.
So when you’re eighteen you feel like a bad ass, like you know the world and yourself because you just graduated from high school. BIG whoop am I right? You really know nothing, should probably pay more attention to what your parents are telling you and not take your youth for granted.
Then your early twenties come and you think back to how idiotic you were when you were eighteen and nineteen and you again think you have found yourself, know your identity in the world, and have it allllll figured out.
Then you turn twenty four to twenty five, you really feel legit now, think you know yourself and your life plan.
To all you younger gals, I am here to tell you what I wish I knew myself years ago.
Life doesn’t follow a timeline.
One of my favorite subjects in elementary school was history because I loved when we drew timelines with cute pictures and descriptions. But our own lives aren’t on timelines. It is great to have goals and ideas of what and where you plan to be in life. But sadly, things don’t always happen at the time or place you expect them. Don’t get tunnel vision on having your heart set on a particular career, person, or place you plan to live. Things don’t always work out or happen at the time you wish they did. I struggled a long time internally with having these BIG, BIG ideas of what my life would be like by a certain age, then that age came and passed and it wasn’t what I had saved so perfectly in my mind and it tortured me. I learned though that we need to live one day at time and have goals for the future, but don’t force it.
Don’t be so hard on yourself.
We are living in a society of social media chaos. We can view the world from other’s eyes 24/7 from anywhere in the world. Which is a good thing, but a bad thing. We quickly get caught up in wishing we had “her” hair, “her” legs, “her” eyes, “her” clothes, etc etc. Turn it off. Love yourself, find the traits about you that make you one of a kind. It’s great to admire and compliment other females doing their thang, but you do your thang too! 🙂
Let go of regrets.
Seriously, your twenties have got to be the most influential years of your life. If you haven’t already, you will lose some friends, you will experience break ups, family deaths, whatever. It’s a part of growing up and life in general. It’s hard, it sucks, but you have to push past it. Bad things happen but it makes you who you are and it makes you stronger. Having thoughts like, “I should have said”, “I should of done”, JUST DON’T. It is what it is, and its over. We only have the present, so make it worthwhile. We can’t hold on to the things that hurt us because we leave no space for things that are wonderful for us like new beginnings, friendships, and experiences.
Don’t force it.
If you have to really strain to be someone’s friend, or better yet girlfriend, GIRL STOP. You should never feel nervous or like you have to be someone you are not to be socially accepted by this group of people or guy who is probably super catty and immature. Life is WAYYY to short to spend it with people who don’t appreciate your witty charm and super cool self JUST the way you are.
Never stop learning.
Life is freaking crazy, am I right? But never miss an opportunity to learn something new, or a new way of doing things. Always keep your heart and mind open to change, and you just may be surprised by the outcome.
I am no expert on life, but I learned so much from the ages of nineteen to now and I just feel the need to share my thoughts in case any girl my age is going through a tough time, hang in there lady it only gets better. Like a fine wine. ;D
Hope you have a fabulous day my friend.
until next time, love your gracefully older sister…
stay cute, stay sweet.